
Intended Parent
Frequently Asked Questions
Below we have compiled the most frequently asked questions by Intended Parents. We understand that there may be additional unanswered questions, if so please reach out to us.
As an Intended Parent, we understand the complexities of parenthood through assisted reproductive technologies. As an Intended Parent, you shouldn't have to choose between empathy, transparency and quality when looking to create your Modernly Ever After.
We pride ourselves on educating, leading and guiding you through your Intended Parent journey. Your journey is tailored to meet your specific needs. You can rest assured that our Surrogates and Egg Donor’s have completed a rigorous screening process before they can begin a MEA match process.
Our highly dedicated team will be there every step of the way, to provide an unparalleled level of support!
The Surrogacy process depends on several factors. Most surrogacy journeys can take between 12-24 months.
This process may move quicker or be prolonged depending on the Intended Parents process stage which includes: research phase, egg retrieval, embryo creation and testing, legal requirements and the course of the Surrogates IVF treatment.
Once we have accepted a Surrogate and/or Egg Donor applicant into our program, we list the Surrogates and Egg Donors in a secured database for your review. The matching process can take anywhere between four to six months to locate a suitable and qualified match.
Both Intended Parents, Surrogates and/or Egg Donor profiles (with no identifying information) will be exchanged. If both parties express interest, we coordinate a virtual meeting for both parties to connect.
An IVF Physician of your choice will medically screen Surrogates and/or Egg Donors after a match is made. If for any reason the Surrogate and/or Egg Donor doesn’t pass the medical screening (which is rare), Modernly Ever After will assist in the re-match process.
At Modernly Ever After, we highly encourage consistent, open and honest communication with your surrogate. Having a positive relationship during the surrogacy process can add a lot of value to your journey and beyond. Even though we hope for you to form a wonderful connection with your surrogate, we respect your right to choose how you want to navigate your journey.
In the event you would like to have little to no contact with your surrogate, Modernly Ever After will facilitate communication between all parties involved.
Please be mindful to create a balanced relationship as your surrogate still has a family and duties of her own.
We understand the decision to utilize a Surrogate and/or Egg Donor is a huge decision!
Having a consultation with the Modernly Ever After Team will help you gain insight on how our Surrogacy and/or Egg Donor Programs works. We will review your current stages in the Intended Parent Process including: basic knowledge, IVF/Egg Donor/Sperm Donor selection, embryo creation, legal aspects, estimated cost and answer any questions you might have.
We will also learn more about your life, family, upbringing, parenting perspective, journey expectations and more. the first time. We measure our success by time to pregnancy, not time to match.
Yes, it is imperative to gain legal counsel and utilize an attorney that specializes in Surrogacy law. If you do not have an attorney, the Modernly Ever After Team will assist you in the process of obtaining a Surrogacy Attorney to act as your counsel for legal matters.
By having a Surrogacy attorney, you will gain the following benefits: local surrogacy laws and regulations explained thoroughly, complete your surrogacy contract, protect your rights and interest during the Surrogacy process and establish parental rights as the Intended Parents.
If you reside outside the United States, you will need to obtain a Surrogacy attorney in the United States as well.